Fearlessly Courageous
Desk of Dennis Piller
4/15/2021
Leadership: A Masters’ course in leading a team and leading a family! Part I
I think parenting calls for Master Level leadership skills. Unfortunately, I was a parent before I was an adult. I was only 19. What can you know about being a parent let alone a leader at that age?
I also think we don’t look to grow our skills as we might. It’s not like being asked to prepare for a complicated project at work. A leader must learn and grow in many areas. Most grow thru their own limited experiences. A few will be deliberate by taking classes or courses to hone these skills. Some of our parents were poor leaders although they loved us. Some of us had some great mentors but may not be so polished in passing it on. Or they may have grown stale without an opportunity to hone those skills.
I was working on some bullet points for our Men’s Courageous leadership huddle and felt all of them apply to raising our children, at any age, also.
I got to thinking of the different adjectives of a leader and a parent.
Visionary, momentum, dynamics, inciting involvement, motivation, being meaningful, purposeful, engaging, being a literal nucleus to the pieces around you. Putting God first and teaching others by lifting them higher.
1. Being prayed up. Asking the Holy Spirit for personal receptivity to hear his leadings and his help by opening up these precious people to your capable hands.
a. We must pray and practice being a better communicator and learn to ask better questions. They hold the keys to the richest secrets.
2. Lead with humility and transparency. That means sharing and being vulnerable and when necessary taking the lead by your openness to share a deeper secret.
3. Listening authentically. There are many ways to listen, it begins by paying close attention when they talk, giving them your undivided attention and focus.
A. You cannot be looking for the next question, looking at your phone, or listen with duplicity. Believe me, they can feel it. Engage them deeper by listening completely, let them see your undivided attention.
B. Authentic listening grows the relationship and naturally draws them out. Note, the depth of your questioning cannot exceed your depth of relationship. Listening helps them be comfortable in opening up to share their deepest and or darkest secrets.?
C. Think of them first. Talk about them first. Listening gives you the insight and discernment to do that.
What about you? What have you done to improve being a good leader or parent? I pray this will be a start to be better using Christ as our example.
Tomorrow part II of Leading a Team and your family.
Will you not stop and pray with us and your family for one hour this week?
He listens and will respond!
You Raise me Up. Only Men Aloud
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=88RUGzmxOdA&list=RDVhrxRccU3Lw&index=3
